I leave for Alaska on Tuesday and have so much stuff to get done. This is also one of my rare weeks that I’m working 40 hours. (YAY MONEY!) Needless to say, it has been crazy .

I’m drawing power from my very wise sister-in-law’s advice about how IT’S OKAY TO SAY, “NO!”.

We need to create priorities and we dont always have time for everything. Sometimes I just need to cancel. Not because I have something else to do, but because its been a freaking busy week and I need a moment to myself to breathe and not punch everyone I see in their ovaries (or testicles).

I’m such a people pleaser. And I ALWAYS try and make time for everyone and go everywhere with everyone. But we have to remember that WE are our own number ones!

Its okay to be selfish when it comes to you’re own happiness. “Do what you want, when you want to”….as my best friend, A, said (not so eloquently during Cinco De Mayo freshman year in college).

Cheers to “Me Time”.

xo R

Balance in Our Relationship

T (my boyfriend, we’ve been dating/living together for about 3 years) saw yesterday’s post and did an amazing thing for me today.

Briefly, the post was about my productivity being abysmally low when I have a completely open day with nothing on the calendar and how I need to start scheduling things in, even if it’s just working out, or setting time aside to write in the blog.  Because when I have something on a schedule already, I add more things and get more things done. 

ANYWAYS–> He left a note for me this morning with things to do today! Aptly titled, “RENEE’S BIG OLE LIST OF STUFF TO DO!”.  It included mostly housework, but also, coming up with ideas to rearrange some of the furniture in various rooms in our apartment, working out and being sexy (lol). 

Productive, Productivity, To-do list, list

Now I know what you’re thinking, “He left you a list of chores. What a dick.”  What you DON”T KNOW is that he does more day-to-day cleaning/tidying than I do and he works 40+ hours a week.  That’s right, I’m the dick. And I think this is one of the sweetest things ever!  This is just one tiny way that we have great balance in this relationship.  He KNOWS I need a to-do list, he KNOWS I need things on my schedule.  So without even asking, he gives me a list of things to do so that I am more productive on yet another empty day.  

It’s a win-win-win scenario. He gets to come home to a clean house, it gets the ball rolling on what will become a super productive day, I don’t feel like a lazy person AND he gets super brownie points for reading yesterday’s post and making it all happen.

He gets me. And that’s just an inkling of why I love this man, oh-so-gosh-darn much.


Too Much Time

“People often complain about lack of time, when the lack of direction is the real problem.”  -Zig Ziglar

When most people talk about finding balance in life, they are referring to a busy schedule filled with work and family obligations and “how could they possibly find time to work out and stay healthy in the midst of it”.  As a health and wellness coach, I find myself frequently having conversations with these people about planning and preparation and how that will save and create time for them.

For me, however, I don’t work 40+ hours a week.  I don’t have kids or many obligations. I don’t have a set salary or set hours that I work.  I work as an independent contractor for multiple companies.  Sometimes they need me for a 40-hour week, sometimes I don’t hear from them for 2 weeks.  I spend most of my time at home, at my desk, working with my clients and/or looking for acting and modeling gigs, sometimes paid, but plenty are non paying.  The thing about being your own agent is you have to be constantly looking for your own work. Even when you are booked FULL UP and hardly have a minute to breathe, you need to be finding more jobs. Or else once the craziness dies down, you have nothing. No income, no leads, nothing in the works.  Whoops. That’s where I’m at again.  I still enjoy it more than being a desk monkey. But maybe that’s just me.

My problem is that when I have too much time on my hands, I fill it with silly things.  I find that I am most productive when I have a decently full schedule, but not being overwhelmed. When I know I only have so much time in my day to get things done, they get done.  When I have nothing on my calendar, I’ll play video games all day.

I hate those empty days. They make me feel like I’m not living up to my full potential, that I’ve been lazy. Even though I know I’m working my ass off.

I’m striving to find balance for those days.  Manage my time better.  Schedule things in, even if its just to workout. AT LEAST SOMETHING IS ON THE DAMN CALENDAR.  I need to plan and prepare to fill the white, empty space on my schedule. I take my own advice when I’m busy and seem to have no time, but the rules still apply when I seem to have too much time.

Time to put it to work.